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Taming Your Ego


Why do we procrastinate?

Procrastination is usually a symptom of either low self-esteem or perfectionism or a combination of both. A person with low self-esteem can be a perfectionist but not always.

Usually one procrastinates because with both low self-esteem and perfectionism, one is usually very sensitive to criticism about decisions or actions made and is very dependent upon approval of others. 

Procrastination also creates more misery for the perfectionist who already experiences daily doses of misery since they are never satisfied with their efforts or usually what others do.

Procrastination is toxic to us internally because we can never be at peace.

To build self-esteem and wipe out perfectionism, one needs guidance in learning how to risk making decisions swiftly and efficiently.

One must learn that it is more important to make a decision, based on careful consideration of one's options, and then evaluate it once the decision has been executed. The more one bravely goes forward in not second-guessing oneself, the more self-esteem will be built, even when some decisions may have to be altered.

Procrastination actually makes one physically and mentally exhausted because living with indecision and limbo is not what we were meant to do. We were meant to be productive here on Earth and not waste time.

Use your tendency for procrastination as a welcome reminder that you have some work to do and once done, you will be closer to achieving more peace of mind.


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One does not trust themselves enough if one suffers from low self-esteem or perfectionism to confidently forge ahead without much anxiety. Therefore, it seems safer to stay noncommittal and inactive regarding our pursuits. However, procrastination actually heightens an already low self-esteem by assuring one that they really do not have the coping skills to function efficiently.