Risa Ennis Family Meditation and Counselling Services specialises in providing grief counselling sessions and family mediation services for clients throughout Toronto, Ontario. The meetings and gatherings I give are offered through Zoom calls and face-to-face setups, allowing you flexibility based on your schedule and availability.
It is well known that separation and divorce are one of life’s most stressful experiences. There are multiple losses based on decisions that have to be made for both parenting and financial agreements that are overwhelming, traumatic, and terrifying for most clients.
That said, separation can be life-altering, going so far as to make one lose focus on previously held goals and aspirations for life and work. For most clients, separation can be the gateway to a much healthier, happier, and more productive life, but this outcome usually takes work, pain, and plenty of challenges along the way.
My goal is to provide compassion and care for all clients I work with, along with their children, during this difficult time in their lives.
Our legal system allows us to go through mediation, a process that enables both parties to have better control and power over the outcomes of their lives. In most cases, mediation provides not only a more affordable option but also a smoother and less stressful method of coming to an agreement.
However, negotiating in mediation is neither easy nor seamless. At times, tempers flare, disappointment is high, and being present and accountable would not easy for many individuals.
Typically, both parties will have a form of negative history, a lack of trust, and trauma associated with separation and cooperation. Knowing this, mediation might seem like an unkind, nearly impossible, and even cruel task to subject them to at this time.
But unfortunately, a separation will also impact the well-being of clients’ children as well, and in order to provide them with a less stressful experience, both partners should work diligently and honestly to come to an amicable agreement.
Mediation requires maturity, patience, and understanding the importance of each other’s place in the lives of their children. Emotional intelligence and realistic expectations from the other party will also be an important asset during the process. This will not be easy, especially since the pain from the entire ordeal might still be fresh in one or both clients’ hearts.
A good family mediator must be strong in maintaining the process while still keeping a neutral stance during the entire situation. They may also offer and generate options, but both parents must voluntarily agree to a mediated agreement, which has higher chances of longevity and cooperation.
Rarely can mediation be done without some pain, compromises, and above all else, the wisdom to accept that a good mediated agreement is one where both clients never get everything they asked for. This is a fair outcome for both parties and, most of the time, will set a good example for their children that they are still working together despite their differences.
I provide grief counselling for individuals dealing with divorce grief as well as any other experience.
I gladly work hard for my clients and their children. Seeing families repair, heal, and move forward has been extremely gratifying for me, and I am so grateful that all my clients put their trust in me during their most challenging moments.